In this week's episode of Champ Up Chat, Srarah and I finish up our series on QoL.
The last arena that you want to be aware of on your mission to improve your Quality of Life is the physical arena, but not in the way you might "think".
We all want to feel a sense of being capable, independent, strong, self-sufficient and useful as human beings. No matter how old you are, physical capacity moves us through our daily activities, or not.
When your physical arena is ignored, neglected or taken for granted, it's not because you don't have the time or that there is too much going on.
It is because you are not aware of the concept of Locus of Control. This concept was developed originally by Julian Rotter in the 1950s. Locus of Control refers to an individual's perception and belief about the underlying main causes of events in his/her life. Or, more simply: Do you believe that your destiny is controlled by yourself or by external forces (such as fate, god, or powerful others)?
So, when our locus of control is shifted externally, we tend to place blame on the circumstances outside of us. Essentially, giving our power away, we have control over our own results and destiny, when it comes to our physical well-being. The diet that failed us. The workout that injured us. Our jobs/careers take up too much of our time, etc.
In reality, we are always the author and director of our own stories. We are fully responsible for the outcome of the journey unfolding in front of us. I'm not saying that life won't smack us in the face with unforeseen circumstances. But we are the only ones that can decide how to S.C.R.A.P through and get back on track. Without this awareness, we are left mentally and emotionally in a state of fight or flight.
That leaves us looking for the next "thing" to get us what we want. Feeling lost, confused and overwhelmed. When it can be as simple as a decision to say:
"I will stay on the path no matter what.".
"I don't need things, I have the internal strength to keep myself physically fit."
"Challenges and set-backs make me stronger each and every time."
When Hurricane Sandy touched down in Rockaway Beach, NY in 2012, we, thankfully, left for higher ground to keep ourselves out of the storm. As we watched our community become submerged under 6-10 feet of ocean and bay waters. As our gym and home were smack dab in the middle of it all, I will never forget telling Sarah as she was crying and distraught, "We will come back bigger and better than before."
I didn't know how or what we were going to do. But planting the seed for the comeback was vital for our locus of control. Not blaming mother nature or asking, "why us?" Simply stating that we would find a way because without the "things", it was going to be a matter of what we believed on the inside.
Remember, our physical reality is always created by how we talk to ourselves.
Anabolic thoughts are life-building and constructive and internally grounded.
Catabolic thoughts are destructive and cause you to shift your thoughts outward, placing blame and pointing fingers.
Challenge yourself today to be aware of how you talk to yourself.
What is happening that can benefit from some anabolic thinking?
How can you take more responsibility for the scenario you are faced with?
Who can you partner with that will be by your side as you do your best to move forward with your journey?
Here is a start with your own research on this concept that will change the way you see your world.
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