YOU ALWAYS HAVE THE ANSWER

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4 facts about emotional resilience⁣
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1. Resilience can be learned.⁣
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2. The more we feel all of our feelings, the more resilient we are.⁣
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3. Resilient people don’t deny their human responses to loss and pain.⁣
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4. Yes, you can grow your resilience.⁣
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It's not easy to grasp but it is something we all want to some degree. But we are not aware that we can build our emotional arena...we then engage in blaming people and circumstances for the way we feel.⁣
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Distoring our focus.⁣
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Catabolic habits (abusing alcohol, smoking, overeating, etc.,) begin to kick in. Subconsciously, we then suppress those undesirable emotions that we are experiencing.⁣
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Feelings of being lost, stuck, fearful, angry, or resistant...fight or flight response.⁣
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Over the past 2 years, since Sarah and I closed our gym during the pandemic, as a martial artist and gym owner and coach, so many emotions have hit me from so many angles:⁣
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• Anger⁣
   

• Emptiness⁣
   

• Frustration⁣
   

• Inadequacy⁣
   

• Helplessness⁣
   

• Fear⁣
   

• Guilt⁣
   

• Loneliness⁣
   

• Depression⁣
   

• Overwhelm⁣
   

• Resentment⁣
   

• Failure⁣
   

• Sadness⁣
   

• Jealousy⁣
   

• Anxiety⁣

All emotions that would make sense to avoid, because of the perceived pain that we could potentially experience.⁣
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Accept that this journey of being a human being will involve a huge variety of anabolic and catabolic emotions.⁣
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There is nothing "wrong" with you because you are feeling catabolic emotions.⁣
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Remind yourself that you are not your emotions, they don't define you. This usually sounds like,⁣
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"I am depressed."⁣
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"I'm helpless"⁣
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or "I'm a failure."⁣
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Take a moment to reframe:⁣
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"I am experiencing frustration."⁣
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"I am experiencing anxiety."⁣
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"I am experiencing overwhelm."⁣
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With this subtle reframe, you will leave yourself open to the opportunity to acknowledge how you are feeling for that moment and then decide if that's how you want to continue to show up.⁣
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When it all boils down, you know what works best for you.⁣
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It takes patience, grace and grit to be able to evolve in your emotional arena.⁣
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Not by theorizing, but by growing through what you go through. Your emotional resilience will be strengthened through resistance. The same way as exercise works for the body. You will be able to recognize when catabolic feelings arise and be able to adjust and persevere.⁣
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The next time you experience an emotion that is breaking you down, ask yourself 3 questions:⁣
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"What is this feeling?"⁣
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"Why is it there?"⁣
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"Where is this feeling coming from?⁣
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Or you can listen in on our chat about the emotional arena and how you can get back in the fight.⁣
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Champ Up Chat is on Spotify and iTunes or wherever you listen to podcasts.